Harriette Hartigan once said, “Giving birth and being born brings us into the essence of creation, where the human spirit is courageous and bold and the body, a miracle of wisdom.” And in these few wise words, she summed up how great yet difficult being a mother could be. So, if Hartigan’s words are not enough for you as a new mom, you should tell yourself some or all of the following.
1- You should take time for yourself. Neglecting yourself for the sake of your babies won’t do anyone any good. Don’t neglect your daily shower. Don’t neglect nutritious healthy food. And off course, don’t neglect to sleep enough hours.
2- It is ok to need help, and it is ok to ask for it. Babies need constant care, and asking others for help, at least to do the chores or prepare some food, is completely normal. So, don’t beat yourself up about it.
3- Don’t think you are not normal just because you find breastfeeding difficult. It is not like you are turning on some faucet and the milk just runs through. It is expected that both you and your baby will take time to get used to it.
4- Not being able to breastfeed your baby doesn’t make you a bad mother. Some babies are just like that, they can’t be breastfed. You are still a good mother, and you can still be the closest person to your baby.
5- Your baby DOES say different things. If you listen carefully to your baby, you will find that he/she behaves and sounds differently from time to time.
6- You need some time for your partner. Having a baby should be a thing that brings you and your partner together, not draws you apart.